Comments on: Your Author http://thetokenfeminist.wordpress.com If you oppose her, it will be your downfall [-Ptah Hotep] Mon, 21 Dec 2009 19:23:05 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Ayesha Janz http://thetokenfeminist.wordpress.com/about/#comment-554 Ayesha Janz Sun, 20 Dec 2009 04:14:54 +0000 #comment-554 Very interesting communication. I was wondering why feminist sites are silent on men who really respect the leadership of women. It is we who turn a deaf ear to them. There is a very interesting & informative site "Around Her Finger"-- http://www.aroundherfinger.com/ I think its time feminists pay more attention to this beautiful lifestyle. Very interesting communication. I was wondering why feminist sites are silent on men who really respect the leadership of women. It is we who turn a deaf ear to them. There is a very interesting & informative site “Around Her Finger”– http://www.aroundherfinger.com/

I think its time feminists pay more attention to this beautiful lifestyle.

]]> By: Damien http://thetokenfeminist.wordpress.com/about/#comment-553 Damien Mon, 14 Dec 2009 07:32:15 +0000 #comment-553 Thanks Madam. With your answer, I believe that you have laid the foundation for a very strong move towards feminism, and even beyond that when you said that "I don't see a problem with women identifying as strong and as ‘leaders’ in the way that many men already do…". Because many more women (including feminists) don't like to accept this reality. I think this is the problem before us today that needs very strong and urgent awareness, first among the feminist activists, and then among all women in the world. Today there are so many feminists who always shout against violence against women done by men. Neither of them point out, as a good example, to the case of so many men who respectfully admire and are supportive of women who lead them, i.e. may be in office as the female boss or friend, at home as the wife, or as girlfriend in casual relationships. The terms 'female-led relationships' or 'wife-led marriage' are no longer going to be unpopular words. But I feel the pace of their getting popular is not enough. Let this normal lifestyle be as much popular /known to the public as possible so that those who have been shy or inibited to follow it (even though they adore it) may unleash their true desires. Please think of having a dialogue on this with other feminist sites. Thanks Madam. With your answer, I believe that you have laid the foundation for a very strong move towards feminism, and even beyond that when you said that “I don’t see a problem with women identifying as strong and as ‘leaders’ in the way that many men already do…”. Because many more women (including feminists) don’t like to accept this reality. I think this is the problem before us today that needs very strong and urgent awareness, first among the feminist activists, and then among all women in the world.

Today there are so many feminists who always shout against violence against women done by men. Neither of them point out, as a good example, to the case of so many men who respectfully admire and are supportive of women who lead them, i.e. may be in office as the female boss or friend, at home as the wife, or as girlfriend in casual relationships. The terms ‘female-led relationships’ or ‘wife-led marriage’ are no longer going to be unpopular words. But I feel the pace of their getting popular is not enough. Let this normal lifestyle be as much popular /known to the public as possible so that those who have been shy or inibited to follow it (even though they adore it) may unleash their true desires.

Please think of having a dialogue on this with other feminist sites.

]]> By: Caitlin http://thetokenfeminist.wordpress.com/about/#comment-552 Caitlin Sun, 13 Dec 2009 18:59:40 +0000 #comment-552 Very interesting sites. Yep I don't see the problem with women identifying as strong and as 'leaders' in the way that many men already do. Nor do I see a problem with men accepting that leadership...consider the men and women who follow this lifestyle recognised by THIS feminist :) Very interesting sites. Yep I don’t see the problem with women identifying as strong and as ‘leaders’ in the way that many men already do. Nor do I see a problem with men accepting that leadership…consider the men and women who follow this lifestyle recognised by THIS feminist :)

]]> By: Damien http://thetokenfeminist.wordpress.com/about/#comment-551 Damien Sat, 12 Dec 2009 20:24:03 +0000 #comment-551 Thanks. Happy to know that feminist men also have a place in your blog. I don't say that matriarchy is the answer, but there are many men today who respect women who lead them. Also there are many women who like supportive men. I think it is a lifestyle. Increasing number of books and websites on this lifestyle are proof of its popularity, eg. www.she-makes-the-rules.com , www.venus-on-top.com . What is important is that these men are all feminists. So I think it would be fair for femist movements to recognize these men and women who follow this lifestyle. Thanks. Happy to know that feminist men also have a place in your blog.
I don’t say that matriarchy is the answer, but there are many men today who respect women who lead them. Also there are many women who like supportive men. I think it is a lifestyle. Increasing number of books and websites on this lifestyle are proof of its popularity, eg. http://www.she-makes-the-rules.com , http://www.venus-on-top.com . What is important is that these men are all feminists. So I think it would be fair for femist movements to recognize these men and women who follow this lifestyle.

]]> By: Caitlin http://thetokenfeminist.wordpress.com/about/#comment-549 Caitlin Mon, 07 Dec 2009 22:00:38 +0000 #comment-549 Hi there Damien, I totally agree that there are men who respect and support feminism! I am active in campaigning for feminism as a movement to be more inclusive to men, especially when it comes to activism. I believe that the only way we can fix society and make it equal is to set an example within our movement, so denying men a voice in feminism seems hypocritical. I hope that this blog can provide men with information about feminism too, and be welcoming to them. I'm sorry if you feel it doesn't! I agree that some people choose to love and respect their partner's leadership, I just don't think it should be a gendered thing. I don't think it's right to say that women are superior to men, inverting the problem doesn't get rid of it, it just changes the victim. A matriarchy is not the answer! All the best to you, too, and thanks for checking out my blog :) Hi there Damien,

I totally agree that there are men who respect and support feminism! I am active in campaigning for feminism as a movement to be more inclusive to men, especially when it comes to activism. I believe that the only way we can fix society and make it equal is to set an example within our movement, so denying men a voice in feminism seems hypocritical. I hope that this blog can provide men with information about feminism too, and be welcoming to them. I’m sorry if you feel it doesn’t!

I agree that some people choose to love and respect their partner’s leadership, I just don’t think it should be a gendered thing. I don’t think it’s right to say that women are superior to men, inverting the problem doesn’t get rid of it, it just changes the victim. A matriarchy is not the answer!

All the best to you, too, and thanks for checking out my blog :)

]]> By: Damien Perera http://thetokenfeminist.wordpress.com/about/#comment-548 Damien Perera Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:21:59 +0000 #comment-548 Hi, When browsing the web, I came across your site and thought of making this suggestion. Not only men, today there are many men (including myself) who respect & support feminist ideology. Also there are many men who go beyond that and believe in female superiority. They respect their wives as head of family, and there are lovers who prefer female-led-relationships. Even though many think that equality is better than 'led-relationships', there is a popular lifestyle among men to think otherwise and so they love and respect female leadership in relationships. This means not to be lazy from the man's side, but to assume more responsibility in relationships or family life. Please do some web search on this, and please give a place to men also who support your great mission.. Wish you all the very best ! Hi,

When browsing the web, I came across your site and thought of making this suggestion.

Not only men, today there are many men (including myself) who respect & support feminist ideology. Also there are many men who go beyond that and believe in female superiority. They respect their wives as head of family, and there are lovers who prefer female-led-relationships. Even though many think that equality is better than ‘led-relationships’, there is a popular lifestyle among men to think otherwise and so they love and respect female leadership in relationships. This means not to be lazy from the man’s side, but to assume more responsibility in relationships or family life. Please do some web search on this, and please give a place to men also who support your great mission..

Wish you all the very best !

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